Get ready for a soulful journey as we unravel the truths of life, authenticity, and personal growth with our special guest, Giovanna, a renowned spiritual life coach. She shares her wisdom on embracing positivity and self-reflection, and the power of being true to oneself. Learn how our quest for external validation often leads us astray and the transformative power of setting healthy boundaries and maintaining our authenticity.
Navigating the twists and turns of life, we chat about the roles and challenges of a spiritual life coach. The raw and honest discussion stirs up topics about the strength in vulnerability, the essence of authenticity, and the positive impact of sharing personal struggles. We venture into the deeper realms of personal growth, exploring how it can inspire and uplift others.
We wrap up the podcast with a focus on mental health, the importance of setting boundaries, and finding peace and happiness in relationships. With candid discussions about anger, peace, and the balance between peace and happiness, we share personal experiences which showcase how establishing clear boundaries has led to self-respect, healthier relationships, and personal growth. The episode leaves no stone unturned, sparking a thought-provoking discourse about the delicate balance between personal space, mental health, and authentic relationships.
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Get ready for a soulful journey as we unravel the truths of life, authenticity, and personal growth with our special guest, Giovanna, a renowned spiritual life coach. She shares her wisdom on embracing positivity and self-reflection, and the power of being true to oneself. Learn how our quest for external validation often leads us astray and the transformative power of setting healthy boundaries and maintaining our authenticity.
Navigating the twists and turns of life, we chat about the roles and challenges of a spiritual life coach. The raw and honest discussion stirs up topics about the strength in vulnerability, the essence of authenticity, and the positive impact of sharing personal struggles. We venture into the deeper realms of personal growth, exploring how it can inspire and uplift others.
We wrap up the podcast with a focus on mental health, the importance of setting boundaries, and finding peace and happiness in relationships. With candid discussions about anger, peace, and the balance between peace and happiness, we share personal experiences which showcase how establishing clear boundaries has led to self-respect, healthier relationships, and personal growth. The episode leaves no stone unturned, sparking a thought-provoking discourse about the delicate balance between personal space, mental health, and authentic relationships.
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Because I'm so used to everybody being on your side and throwing me under the bus, so it's nice for it to be. It feels nutritious. She's a neutral party.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And this is the first time I felt a neutral party and they're not only the presence of this show, but like just everything as a whole here.
Speaker 3:So that's dope. Thank you I appreciate that.
Speaker 1:Very neutral, very neutral. She has created a safe space for me. Oh my God, it's Wix, wix. Oh my God, god.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm GS Wix. Oh my God, GS Wix. Oh my God, GS Wix. Oh my God, GS Wix. Oh my God, GS Wix. Oh my God, it's Wix Wix. Oh my God, GS Wix.
Speaker 4:And everybody. This is the OMG is Wix show, episode 22,. We still here, Y'all. We still here, we still I said it three times because y'all can't get rid of us like y'all thought y'all, we all could. I ain't gonna challenge them, though, because they might try to get us up out of here because man had been beefing with everybody for the past few weeks. So we need more people in the Manny Fan Club, but I'm gonna toss it over to McCullough's what about him? And induce himself.
Speaker 1:First of all, like, share, subscribe, comment. Don't disrespect me because I'll slap everybody you love. I'm sick of these fans. I hate this show. Don't know why I do it? Well, because Wix is my friend and I made a promise, but I'm I still know DMs, still no DMs, still no DMs, whatever. But last you know, but she did last guess, got 29,000 DMs, but whatever, we don't know nothing about it. She could be a serial killer for all we know, but y'all want to DM her. I hope she catch up to one of y'all, meet up with y'all and kill y'all, since y'all want to give so many strangers DMs. But I said I'm so happy to be here, I'm excited. This is an experience every time for the fan club that I have of two but one is fake. Shout out to y'all. But if we get to five people in the fan club, then I'm gonna do something special for the five people in the fan club.
Speaker 3:I like that he might be happy.
Speaker 1:So you got to help me out, though, because we got a filter fake from the real. So how are we going to determine who's a real, really part of my fan club and who's not? So we can start thinking about that. But yeah, once we get five people in the fan club, I'm gonna do something special for them. Fans, all right. Yeah, I'm gonna kick it off to the guests. My bad, are they you good?
Speaker 3:Hello, hello, my name is Giovanna. I am a motivational coach, life, spiritual, life coach and motivational speaker. I wrote a book called Soul on Soul Contact and it's really cool. I wrote it years ago and haven't really promoted it, so promoting it big time about following your, your truth, speaking your truths and not being held back by it. So I feel like if we all understood ourselves more, we wouldn't have to figure out if someone else understood us.
Speaker 4:So I like that. I'm glad you're here. I'm glad Because when I started following you, like I'm so, because I took a journey, because I'm not the same person I was years ago, so I took a more, you know, a journey on to positivity. Like I'm more positive now I try to look at things in a more positive light. But a lot of our people not a lot of them I'm not gonna say I'm not gonna do you like?
Speaker 4:that Manny, but some people think that Manny could use some like motivational speaking, like somebody to some type of positivity, some type of life, more spiritual life coach, and I feel like Manny can use. So that's why I feel like it's perfect that you're here, because maybe you can rub that off on Manny and he gonna come in here smiling the next episode.
Speaker 3:Hey, I mean, we could make it happen, miracles happen Right.
Speaker 1:Go ahead, I got a smile.
Speaker 3:That's what I'm saying, though you know I don't have to smile to be happy. Exactly, you know, I mean sometimes. You know happiness is internal. So you know, the best way to piss someone off is to say why aren't you smiling? You know, like yeah sometimes it really does get like that.
Speaker 1:But, you know, don't tell me what to do. It's just, people don't understand that there's different brands of positivity?
Speaker 3:Yeah, what's your brand?
Speaker 1:You don't like my brand of positivity. My positivity is just being real honest and it just sounds harsh and it roasts people the wrong way. But that's because you are afraid to deal with stuff. So that's how I look at it. I don't think I'm negative.
Speaker 3:You know sugar coating, I'm very well aware of myself.
Speaker 1:And just because these fools are as used to M&Ms with the sugar coating and they ain't ready to get down to the peanut, that's their problem, not mine.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean, that's the truth, though A lot of people don't want to face their own crap. They don't want to face their truth. They project it. People hurt people, yes, you know, and so people may think and assume that you're one way, but it's like no, I just I don't cater to that anymore. I have boundaries, I don't need to be fake anymore. It takes a lot of energy to be fake. So, yeah, good for you for not having to like change and be a way that you're not comfortable, because if you're trying to change yourself and be happy and positive, then that's not you either. You know like to be all outward and, and you know, sugar coated like that.
Speaker 1:Finally somebody on the show speaking some sense. It took long enough. Episode 22. Hey, and if y'all jumping her DMs before you jump in mine.
Speaker 4:Oh, this is going to be beat down.
Speaker 3:I'm going to send it over. I'm going to send it over.
Speaker 1:I'm going to scorch the earth, bro. I'm going to scorch the earth as a matter of fact, when I'm going to start you know what? I don't know. I'll let it out. No, because I'm going to. I'm going to. Hopefully she'll work with me on this, and Lena too. I want names. I want names of the people that are going in and box. I'm going to personally attack them on these shows when we get back.
Speaker 4:That's how you doing it.
Speaker 1:See, even that sounded negative. Whatever. Whatever miss on the street, or is it accountability, you?
Speaker 4:know, I like it. I like it I mean you could.
Speaker 3:It's it, everyone's different and that's the thing is like happiness is an internal thing, so like happiness may be someone who's very introverted, you know, and doesn't want to go talk to people, and when they are out there they're sitting there like all like and it's like I'm not mad, I just feel uncomfortable, you know. So if you find out what makes you happy and you kind of go after it, it looks different for everyone and that's what people don't get is they try and copy paste it.
Speaker 1:That's no genius. This lady's a genius.
Speaker 3:I just need a platform.
Speaker 4:That's it. That's what I'm talking about. This is the stage.
Speaker 3:This is the beginning, you know, because when you are you people respect that, people see that, people are attracted to that.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, no, I agree with that. I do agree with that. I think this journey because I was a very angry person, I would say why are you doing that, man? Why are you doing that? I was an angry person. If you caught me, like six years ago, I was a very angry person and I projected a lot. You know what I'm saying. So I would say once, I think, right before COVID hit, I started like doing some work, like okay, a lot of these things are because of you. You know, I had to look at myself and be like okay, a lot of these problems work. How are you beefing with everybody? Like something has to be wrong with you?
Speaker 3:It's a common denominator. Yeah, Like me.
Speaker 4:I'm angry. So I had to like start picking apart why I'm angry and dealing with it. Yeah, so when COVID hit, you know, we kind of had to sit still. Right. That's when I really had to like self reflect, because now you're just sitting with yourself and you have to look. You have no other choice but to look at yourself either, you know so.
Speaker 3:Did you write Like what kind of how did how does? Because sometimes, like females and males kind of do things differently. Fales are very emotional, so it's sometimes easier to express, but I'm definitely more like, prone to help and want to be available for all of the guys, because guys don't get enough emotional support and enough like safe space to be vulnerable. Because, like you said, with dating and everything crap, if you show anything with dating, people are like they're going to bring that right back to you and it's like okay, I was trying to, you know moment.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and then you took it right back at me. So like how do you guys get vulnerable with themselves, like you know?
Speaker 4:Oh, that's a good one.
Speaker 1:That is a different. I don't care You're going to, I'm going to give you my spirit and if you like it, great, and if you don't, you don't.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's a very comfortable with expressing myself.
Speaker 4:I mean, like I said me, I have, I have talks with myself.
Speaker 4:You know, I have talks with myself so it's like okay, I see this and I'll say it out loud. Sometimes it's true they don't know who I be talking to, but I'll say it out loud. Sometimes, you know, and I have these conversations with myself to like not even just like internally, but outward, just so that I can hear it back. Like you hear, and you say this, so you know it's a problem, I can address the problem at that point and figure out solutions at that point. And I do a lot of my thing is studying. I study everything.
Speaker 4:So, even when it comes to like getting in a more positive space. I'll study like how, like which, and try to like, I guess, utilize which ways are best for me. But mainly for me, what works is talking to myself.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 4:And I hear it from myself, like you, you, you gotta know like if you hear it from yourself, that's when you know it's a problem and you need to address it.
Speaker 3:It sounds like mirror work and shadow work is just like without having those labels, because mirror work is looking at yourself and like having the conversation and, to be honest, when I first started my journey, it was really hard to look at myself because I was so angry, because I had all these negative things that like other people, projections, that other people said that when you look at yourself, you're like dang, I'm like stupid or I can't do this or whatever, but it's, it's when you change it, but it's the accountability of yourself.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes. So what's shadow work?
Speaker 3:I hear that a lot, but I don't know what that is Shadow works like going deep into your, your darkness, into understanding, like your triggers, whether it's, you know, emotional abuse, physical abuse. You know things that have set you back that you don't even realize you know that's what it is, so I'll be doing that.
Speaker 1:That's what it is, bro. I'm Bane. I was born in the darkness, so you banged that I am.
Speaker 4:So if you come on the next episode with the same over your mouth, I'll break Batman's back. Quick boy, I don't think you want another Batman.
Speaker 1:I'll knock Batman. We ain't going to get into Batman, brian, so you think you need some knockback man, so you think you can beat Batman?
Speaker 4:I'm sorry, we got this gotta happen.
Speaker 3:We good.
Speaker 1:You really think you can beat Batman? Yeah, I can beat Batman up.
Speaker 4:Okay, first of all, go ahead. I'm gonna be able to say this in a PG-13 way. Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:I have a tactic, and hopefully Batman's not listening, because I wanna be able to use this tactic. This is what men are not used to, and I've learned this as a young age, so this is the best way I can say it. I'm gonna inappropriately touch Batman and he's gonna be thrown off.
Speaker 4:There's no way to inappropriately say that.
Speaker 1:I just said it in the cleanest way. You could say it PG-13. He's gonna get touched in the place by another man that he hasn't before. It's gonna confuse him. And that's when I do my dirty work the dirty, dirty work, not just the dirty work.
Speaker 4:I don't even wanna ask what the dirty, dirty work is.
Speaker 1:I tried to once in high school. I tried to once in high school.
Speaker 4:We gonna keep it rolling.
Speaker 1:Zoa, Batman's not ready for me. Dog See, look, I even threw you off. Imagine Batman Talk about a smoke bomb. That's a different kind of smoke bomb. Next thing you know, you wrapped up.
Speaker 4:He got you upside down.
Speaker 1:That's gonna be him wrapped up what?
Speaker 3:He comes into the Batman shirt Like I stole this from Batman. Look at that. That's gonna be him. Wrapped up, man, when you get the Batmobile, don't worry about it.
Speaker 1:Don't worry about it.
Speaker 3:And it touched your chances. I pushed that button and it touched me too. Pushed to start.
Speaker 1:I did the things you weren't willing to.
Speaker 3:And that's how we got the car.
Speaker 4:So the whole time the Joker been losing that's what it was he not focusing Joker? Get that man, that man, he got a solution. So what are some pros and cons of being like a spiritual life coach that you have experienced?
Speaker 3:It's a very solo journey. A lot of the times, like you know, I'm a person, I'm a quality over quantity, so automatically, like, my circle of friends are very, very, very tight. And then it goes to acquaintances, you know, but a lot of the times when you're working on yourself, people don't like that, they can't relate to that, they don't understand why you're not doing the same things that you used to do. You know, I just went up to Ohio for four months and broke again. You know, like I was at a point where I was so numb that I wasn't me anymore. So I had to go up, got into nature, got more grounded, you know, really figured out again what was holding me back.
Speaker 3:And that's the thing is, when you are healing it's continual, like it's not just like, oh okay, I got to a place and you know you figure out what works for you and what doesn't. But yeah, as being a spiritual life coach, like a lot of people, always they try and take from you. They don't even realize it. Sometimes it's energetic, it's motivational. I could sit with somebody and have a conversation with them and change their life just because you ask the right question, just because you sit down and you actually see the person and they feel seen and they're like, oh okay, yeah, maybe I can do this, maybe I should do this, you know. So it's amazing, it's rewarding. I love it. You know you meet a lot of amazing people, but you also, when you do the work, you are able to then relate with other people. And.
Speaker 3:I think that's what that's my magnet for other people is. They see that I'm authentic. They see that I'm real, I'm vulnerable. I share my darknesses, I share that I got hurt. I share that I've been mad and depressed, and most people don't. They want to have this perfect image of themselves and you know when you are you, then that's what you're supposed to do. It's nothing more than that. We just over complicate everything.
Speaker 4:I agree with that Simplify and, like I said, I think people are trapped. Like you said, people are more attracted to people that's authentic to themselves and I think that's even why people come to like people that follow or support me or whatever I do. They're like we like you because you are you and I'm like that's all I can be, like I don't know how to be anything else. So I do agree with that. If you're you, then I feel like that does attract more people. And if you're you and you're like hey, I did this, so you can do this.
Speaker 4:And you're like, yeah, I think it's.
Speaker 3:Yeah, cause it's not like I'm trying to tell people what to do, more or less. It's like if I can change myself the reflection of me should or could, then, you know, promote it with your life. You're going to look at me and be like, dang, what'd you do? And I'm not a captain, save a hoe. I'm not like anything like that. I'm just a person who has understood the process a little bit and can explain it.
Speaker 3:You know it's explained by so many different ways, but sometimes it's over complicated. Or you're at a point where the person's up here trying to talk to a person down there and they're like we have nothing in common. Yeah, you know so I feel like one thing that sets me apart is I will go down and sit with you in the darkness, rather than try and pull you out and say no, no, no, it's bad to be in there. Like, no, let's, let's sit here.
Speaker 4:Let's hang out in here. Let's sit here so you hang out with you, I hang out with Bane.
Speaker 3:Oh, we'll hang out yeah.
Speaker 1:That's many through name there. There's like and I gladly accept that, All right, so I got two questions. Yes. One. You said that you are a spiritual life coach.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 1:And you've specified that a couple of times as I'm listening to you what is the difference between a life coach and a spiritual life coach.
Speaker 3:For me I feel like spiritual is more like the entombment with self and source. So you kind of use that as more of a guide than just the life coach, which is more school structured, someone trying to get you out and have goals and stuff. With me, law of attraction is big Affirmations. Sometimes with law, with the life coach they don't always use all of those tools. So spiritually is like everything I really with my coaching I like to help others unlock their own potential and sometimes the best way to do that is going internally and finding your source or God, whatever. You don't have to. But yeah, it's a little different. I feel like some people can't relate to it because they want more of the structured life. But the spiritual kind of has that expansion of awareness that maybe you don't know but you feel internally like I know that there's something bigger.
Speaker 4:And you just can't find it.
Speaker 1:I like that. All right. Question number two so I'm such a pessimist, See? No, I'm not a pessimist. No, I'm not going to do that. I am not going to do that to myself. That's right, babe. I feel, the way I feel, because I feel.
Speaker 1:Accountability. Ok, god man. No, so because I just like I'm listening to you talk. When I listen, I question is coming up. So you said also, like you feel like men are not allowed to express themselves or don't have a place to go and you support that. Do you run into this? Because I feel like If you're the type of person that does that and advertises that, do do or do some women like, attack you or resent you for that, and I the reason I say like for a guy, right, when a man is like Interfeminism and he supports women, then there's always those other men. Oh, you just trying to do this, are you just trying to? Get his pants.
Speaker 1:Do you run into that on the opposite side, being a woman who understands that men may need that type of support and that you support that?
Speaker 3:I don't think so. I might, but I probably don't even realize it. Because, I feel like there's so much out there for women. There's women retreats, there's sisterhood, and that's great, you know, but for guys is sometimes it's, it's, there's, there's, not that like I.
Speaker 1:Couldn't even be comfortable kayaking with Rudy. What I was looking at me like it was a couple cam. I cannot just kayak with my dog.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 4:I don't think that was why they was looking at. I think I was looking at talk because you was yelling To tell Rudy to pick the stick up. I think that's why I was looking at y'all. Looking at y'all, cuz y'all was kayak. I think it was more so cuz you kept it.
Speaker 1:But now that I'm reflecting and just being the positive person that I am, I'm not gonna hold that against them. There were so many factors and sources. Right, like he's not comfortable swimming. That's a fear you're just gonna have. Right, he's never kayak before. There's no paddling. So now, just in reflection and looking back, I'm not gonna hold that against him. He did a great job and he did the best he could and thankfully, we were there to support each other.
Speaker 3:Wait, is that? Is that real? Is that?
Speaker 1:that's 100% real. Okay, I don't know how to do anything else, but be real.
Speaker 3:No, but you're right cuz, sometimes when you do kind of realize, you're like alright, that person was acting a certain way, but then you're like maybe they didn't know how to you know and I'm never paddling with him again.
Speaker 1:I know now I'm mad at him, yeah no, I'll paddle with him as long as he can hold on.
Speaker 4:Oh no, y'all know. You said, joe is gonna race us, you can't you know?
Speaker 1:Somebody else has to film it, cuz I need him to be able to focus. If he can focus, we would dust it to you and paddle. You will. Not 100%, I'm gonna missile out there. Let me show y'all real quick. Let me show y'all quick how it started, cuz this is the first thing, right? So when I was paddling in the beginning, I know what I was doing. Well, rudy, put as a matter of fact, I'm happy it happened. Rudy evolved, helped me evolve In a span of less than an hour, cuz I was put in a difficult situation and I overcame and evolved that. You know what happened afterwards the power row I was you didn't see that.
Speaker 1:I was really was not, so it was for them.
Speaker 3:I that not old school that before after the confidence you know that was that's when it started, oh. I was in danger in the grass patch.
Speaker 1:I said I have to. Something has to change within me and it's my job To take us to the promised land and where we need to be like this new man.
Speaker 4:That's when I hit the first. He broke free man, you might have more than five people in your fan club after this. Oh yeah, but how many are real though?
Speaker 3:No, but how many people are gonna relate to be like I'm not like this, this type of person, I'm not this person, I'm cool with me and that right, there is all right, we need a name for the sweet Senate.
Speaker 1:We need a name for the fan club. It's like something with the darkness. That's what I'm gonna do. That's what I'm gonna do. Oh, that's something involving the darkness. We're gonna do that, yeah, cuz I can say that my positivity is just it's dark, is dressed in the darkness. Yeah, you don't see it. So you got to really focus to understand that I'm not gonna. That's deep.
Speaker 3:You know I want to give you are the light within, so you're not in the darkness there in the dark.
Speaker 1:So from from, from the outside, looking in it like this if you get into this under this veil, yeah, it's the brightest thing you ever gonna run into put it sunglasses on. You got to do the work, so you welcome. Yes, I think we can end the episode with that. No, we're not no, we're not, we still got.
Speaker 3:We need the girl, the fan club, though, for real.
Speaker 4:I feel like after this episode, you gonna grow the fan. Yeah, we're gonna talk to them, but I will say one of my, one of my like things I think I'm big on is putting myself in other people's shoes. So even if somebody does something to me, I'll be like, okay, I Can get it from their perspective. Like I'll be like, okay, I can see why you did that, because from your, your way, you know, looking from their perspective, you can be like Like I can understand it better. You can understand people better if you look from a different perspective.
Speaker 3:But that's an elevated awareness that not everybody has this what you just said, huh, we're gonna dig deep.
Speaker 1:I just have a question for you. Go ahead. So you said, like you know, when something upsets you, you just say, hey, let me put myself.
Speaker 3:No, no, not why I'm upset cuz you know, Was that, like you know, when you started Finding yourself?
Speaker 4:that was after, cuz I was an angry person, right? So this was me. Knew me, manny, don't, don't try to go back. Good, I'll give you three years. Go three years and then tell nothing.
Speaker 1:So when? When these people are cutting you off on the road, well, that's different. Oh, that's different, that's different. So the shoes. There's no shoes for you there. No more to fit Okay.
Speaker 3:Tires, tires.
Speaker 4:Cuz you in the car, man I don't care how good of a person you are, driving on colonial in the middle of the day will change you, it will turn. It will expose to somebody yourself that you never know was there. Okay, boy, listen boy, they could curious.
Speaker 4:But you know what, once I do, like if I get next to when I see like they're older people, I can be like you know I get it. Everybody's driving crazy and sure is my witness like she's seen me and I stopped Doing what I used to do. I thought I'd like him a break. You know I'm saying like okay, I get why y'all, in a new place there's a lot of construction. So even if they came last year, you know, if you come last year, this year, their roles are completely different.
Speaker 4:I mean, I stay here and sometimes I'll be on colonial Like what do they do?
Speaker 3:this like that exit trying to get out 75?.
Speaker 4:That's the one right.
Speaker 3:I was just like okay, wait, am I supposed to go this way? Am I supposed to?
Speaker 4:go. Yeah, you never know all the cones and everything crazy, so I get it. So if you come from like, you know what I'm saying. So I try to look at it from their perspective. But do I still have some anger on the road Sometimes? But that ain't my fault, that's a different person, that's not me, that man. And we get a break that we. I feel like we should get some kind grace for that.
Speaker 1:I'm just asking questions, I'm just curious, so I've talked to the most how you feel.
Speaker 4:I've talked to the most positive people and I've like well, how are they driving on colonial? They're like oh man, like that's when I know it's not just me, right?
Speaker 3:And then, like sometimes you got to think you know that person who's going slow in front of me is protecting me from something like Everything works together. So you know you may be stuck at the red light, but the person right next to you is speeding through. Well, guess what? You're gonna mean him at the next red light. So what does that tell you in life, when you're trying to compare yourselves with other people who are racing up there, when you know everybody's in going different places too?
Speaker 4:That is true. That is good. I'm not gonna road rage, no more, I want to call it a lot.
Speaker 1:Are you done with those lies? Because I.
Speaker 1:Want to talk about this next thing. Okay, go ahead. I don't know if this was common sense, but a light bulb came on and I'm like this should have been common sense, but it's not. But I guess it's. You know, when you don't realize things to do till you go through certain things, right. So tell me of this, I don't know. So I was thinking like after the last situation that I was in, situation ship Relationship I was like I'm not that, that's over. I have so much peace right now. No, so I have so much peace right now. I'm like, oh my god, but I'm unhappy. So I always thought peace brings happiness, or happiness would bring peace, and I had a realization that those are two completely separate things. That's what I think. It's too completely. You can be. What is peace to you? Peace is what I'm at, right now.
Speaker 1:But what if you had to so give your definition of peace a basic definition of peace? What's your basic definition of peace?
Speaker 4:I Mean for me not really having any worries, not worried about I guess what I don't know. I'm straight, so not worried about what people say. I guess not having any worries, like I don't have any worries, always have worries.
Speaker 3:But I mean like being, I moved by the word.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, being up. Yeah, it's what she said, okay.
Speaker 1:So that's yeah, that's kind of my thing too is like just not having like havoc, like I'm chilling, the water is still.
Speaker 3:Yeah, or is your in the boat and you're still? Like the waves might be crazy.
Speaker 1:So I feel like I'm like damn, but I ain't happy. And then I that's what I thought. I was like oh snap, those are two different things.
Speaker 4:No, no, I feel like it's there. You can you find that balance because, like I'm not gonna lie, they're at that. Where was one point to where I was not happy and not peaceful in this relationship and then, after the break and we both grew to the people we were supposed to be, I feel like this time around we found a balance of peace and happiness. So even like even she helps with the peace, so even when it gets crazy, like she'll be like alright, we got you know. I'm saying so it helps with the peace and I'm happy. So I say I feel like if you find that balance, I feel like they go hand to hand. When you get both of them, it's when you like in the Thanos Club, you know we that you say you're gonna get anyways, but it's like getting the stones for the Thanos Club. Like I feel like you get both of them and you'll be good.
Speaker 1:I mean, I still feel like they separate. No, you know, I think one can help the other, but I think both have to be built, like the two different things to build and what is it?
Speaker 3:peace and what was the other? Happiness, happiness, but they're both internal right, oh, yeah, yeah. And then, even from a bad situation, ship is the duality that you're even one step closer to knowing what you want. Oh, you gotta know what you don't want in order to get what you want. So every bad one, look at them and be like thank you. Thank you because I'm one step closer to knowing what I want. You helped me go take her For real. She'd be like wait what?
Speaker 1:like, but not let the world think people no.
Speaker 4:I think you should go thinker right or no? Oh text her.
Speaker 3:Oh right or no?
Speaker 4:Don't do it, man.
Speaker 3:Thank you.
Speaker 1:No, you know like the bear leaves. You just be thankful the bear left right. Take the day, take the day.
Speaker 4:That's a good one, okay. So okay next, how was important, how important it? I've found this out because, even with social media, I'm an introvert. I'm a lot of people don't notice because I'm always working, but I'm a. I'm an introvert. I'm socially awkward, which is why we all see the the Lightning pictures. When I was at the Tampa Bay Lightning game and they're like you look like you're on it, I was like no, I was nervous, I'm awkward, like that's who I am. But Recently I found how important it is to protect your peace. Like that has become like one of the Most important things to me as far as protecting my peace. How do you offer how important it is to y'all to like protect our peace?
Speaker 1:I Think it's an important thing, but I have no interest in protecting it at the moment. Why I plan? On growing and put in more effort towards that. Yeah, so it is important. I don't do it yet, but I'm gonna do it at some point. I'm gonna get there.
Speaker 3:I think you do protect your peace and that's why people don't necessarily Understand is because you you have this, this like Stability about yourself. Where you're, you're unmoved by what other people think of you. I get what you're saying so.
Speaker 1:I'll like give you a little more on what I mean by that. I am a hundred percent aware aware of how to protect. I know how to protect my peace, but I'm still a little messy and ratchet.
Speaker 4:He lets people I'm trying to grow.
Speaker 1:Yeah, supposed to be in the club, so I know right now that I'm not a hundred percent committed to protecting my peace, but I can get there at a split second if I want to. I just know for a fact I'll let some messing you control it. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Not that mess Hell. No, but I definitely am not a hundred percent ready to fully protect the peace. But I know how to do it and when it's time to do it and when I need to do it, I'm gonna flip the switch and I could do it very easy. So yeah, that's true.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But I think the way you protect your peace, in my opinion, is one is like a lot of what you touched on is you have to know what you want, yeah. You have to set boundaries, yeah, and you got to be committed to sticking to those boundaries and you can't let that move it. That's why I say I'm not a hundred, because I know that.
Speaker 1:I'm not a hundred percent committed as of yet to sticking to some of those boundaries that I said personally, that is, but I feel like you're a hundred percent committed to yourself.
Speaker 3:So maybe you just haven't like fully seen that you are committed to your peace. It's just you're more free with it.
Speaker 1:That's a good way to put it. Yo, we need that. You need to do a app so that I could just hear you say some things like that I had a button. You know that I have to find a way to make it personalized to me.
Speaker 3:I have I actually purchased an album? I'm trying to trying to do that because some motivational stuff like that yeah.
Speaker 1:Right now she been. I don't like when people support you, but she's been like and even me. She'll jump in and back us up. So I like that. I like that a lot Because I'm so used to everybody being on your side, so it's nice for it to be. It feels nutritious. She's a neutral party yeah, and this is the first time I felt a neutral party. And they're not only the presence of this show, but like just everything as a whole here.
Speaker 3:So that's dope I appreciate that.
Speaker 1:Very neutral. She has created a safe space for me. I do agree with that. You know, haven't you noticed like I'm just more?
Speaker 4:I haven't heard you talk like this in the time I've known you since 2014. She created a safe space. Quick story Many didn't like me when we first met Definitely not. I still don't know why he didn't like me when we first liked you, rudy, what are you talking about?
Speaker 1:I didn't like you. No, I don't.
Speaker 4:I've never felt like I didn't like Rudy. No, I feel like he like when I brought Rudy to many, you was like yeah, we'll try my.
Speaker 4:I really like me because he didn't say much and I like that, many like that many like that, like he's not gonna like when you first meet him he's not gonna like. Well, back then this man is different. Like I said, this many is grown but back, many back then was more like it was worse so but he wouldn't like it wasn't bad, like he wouldn't you, he wasn't inviting, yeah, he could be cool with you, but you won't know it until you know it. So I, he, you did like Rudy man. He told me I didn't like it, mind me, I Used to cook, so we had a mutual friend, so I used to come around and I never knew many didn't like me, until one day he was like you know, I didn't like you when we first met and I'm like why he was like cuz, I thought you were this way, you know, but you know being cool and I think that you know.
Speaker 4:So I feel like We've grown Into this friendship we did, we ended up being best friends and we've been best friends. It's like what? 2015?
Speaker 4:I'm not going with time but we've been, we've been rocking, but many definitely grown. I will say that like even telling, even going back into that time. I'll say you've grown since then because you were a Lot more petty back there and y'all. Both have grown on the petty yeah, yeah. Well, we went through a stage to where we was petty to everybody, but we did it together. So I will say team.
Speaker 3:Petty power, there you go team building exercises.
Speaker 4:That's what I call it. Yeah, team building exercise. So for me, protecting my peace, right, I'm like extreme. I don't want to sound extreme, I'm extreme, I'm not gonna lie. My peace is important and cause I'll have, like other creators that hit me, I'll be like you shouldn't block people. I'm like listen, if I see somebody that I feel like is disrupted my peace and I'm gonna block them, I don't listen, I don't care, I'll block my mother.
Speaker 3:I set boundaries with everybody Seriously seriously.
Speaker 4:I set boundaries with my mom. I set boundaries with every. If you cross these boundaries, I'm no longer comfortable and I will have to do what I not like. I ain't problem with nobody cause I don't even you know. But I'm saying but yeah, I'll have to take my step back and let you realize that I'm serious about this boundary, that I'm sad. Until you realize it, then we can. You know what I'm saying. But I set boundaries with everybody.
Speaker 1:Love is powerful and I can love you while you do over there, over there.
Speaker 3:Way over there.
Speaker 4:Listen. But even when I got back into this relationship, I was like these are my boundaries. And she tried to tap dance over one and I was, like you can go. And she was like, oh, you just gonna leave. Yes, Like, my boundaries are my boundaries and I'm sticking with them. This is what I learned to keep me at peace.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying. But that's respect, though you know it's self-respect. And then eventually I mean, some people might not like it, but then they're like okay, respect. And then guess what? A year later they're gonna have boundaries and you're gonna be the person that really was like that set that trend man.
Speaker 1:a lot of people don't know this, but Wicks is brave. Wicks. This is the level of bravery that Wicks has right now, cause I've been in the position that Wicks is in at this very moment, but Wicks just opened a jar of honey with a bear in the room, and I've just not been capable of that. I strive to be more like you when I grow up.
Speaker 4:But these are conversations we had, so it's not like I'm exposing. You know what I'm saying. These are conversations that we've had, like it to each other and we're comfortable having these conversations. So you know what I'm saying. So that's awesome.
Speaker 3:Are guys comfortable having conversations about, like setting boundaries and stuff like that, or is it kind of just like too serious to talk about?
Speaker 1:This age I don't play. I'm gonna tell you hey, this is X, y, z. I'm not gonna waste your time, I'm not gonna waste mine. This is what's going on. Do you agree you with it? No, so me personally. No, we're gonna have all of them.
Speaker 4:But even with friends like.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's what I'm saying, Like chilling in a group.
Speaker 4:We've had those conversations about setting, but we've had that's what I said, like that's how I know we're real friends Cause we've had these type of conversations as far as setting boundaries and trying to grow as people, and you know how we were, you know we have these conversations and try to help each other grow, you know, to be better people, cause that's the ultimate goal, like I said at the end of the day is to help you, know you to become a better person and then help the people around you to become better people.
Speaker 3:So and I always support you know yeah.
Speaker 4:And I always tell people if I care about you, I'm gonna tell you the truth, and maybe not in a way that you like it, but it's gonna be in a way that you need it.
Speaker 3:So and you need that. You need real versus that fake stuff. You know Someone could tell you oh, you're doing a great job, one really like. You know you got some things you need to work on, and if I don't hold you accountable for it and I just let you, you know, be whatever, then Then.
Speaker 1:I don't care about you. I feel like, yeah, I ran out of participation trophies at 25. I ain't got no more participation trophies to give you all.
Speaker 4:Oh man, all right. So I mean I think we all agree is that setting boundaries creates happiness and peace. I feel like, cause I've never. I think that's it's good, it's a good thing, boundaries are good. Yes, I feel like I think that's when it actually started. The peace and the happiness started for me, when I set those boundaries and I stood on it, cause you know, people will set boundaries and then you'll be like for this person you can kind of skate across the line and they stick they tore across. I'll be like no, no, no, get it back, get it back, get the toe back. I don't know, I ain't doing that.
Speaker 4:So I feel like once you start standing on those boundaries is when it becomes.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 4:And it may be difficult at first, especially when you deal with, like family and close friends that you know were able to cross those boundaries before. But when you first sent them, you're going to lose friends. I'm not going to lie. I'm going to lose friends and you know family at the beginning.
Speaker 3:But what's more important? Losing friends or losing yourself? Who, who, who?
Speaker 1:That's what I'm talking about. I did something by subtraction. I think I do have a foot fetish. I keep getting accused of having a foot fetish because you said something about stepping toes out.
Speaker 3:And what is that? Sorry triggering. I'm back. It's the little bit. Where did that? Come from.
Speaker 1:Back tingle. I got word vomit. I'm so sorry. I just thought about that Cause I get accused of foot fetish and it's like no, I'm not. What are you talking about? I don't look at feet pictures, but you said toes and it kind of, so you're going to be on feet for the rest of your life.
Speaker 4:Oh, okay, so there we go in the DMs, he likes toes. There we go, there we go Sent many of your toes.
Speaker 1:Not sure, I shouldn't have said that, bro. So okay.
Speaker 4:So, like we just said, having those conversations, checking on your friends' mental health, yes, how like. I feel like it's important, cause, like people, when you ask somebody how they're doing, I mean a lot of people they don't. Even when they hit me up, like, I have a few people that will hit me up and ask me like, how are you? Like, how are you mentally? Most people just see, you know, they think I'm doing great, they think I'm doing well, so they, you know, make their assumptions and it's more so Get right to the point. But I like those calls when people hit me up and be like, how are you mentally, you know what I'm saying? Cause now it's been like, okay, you see me, you know what I'm saying, you understand me. You get to have those conversations and I see you post something about that and I was like, oh, that's a good one. So, with you, how often do you check on your friends' mental health?
Speaker 3:So I do it kind of. You know how, like, sometimes people pop into your head. You know a lot of times you just follow that. You know sometimes people are really struggling and they may be posting on social media that their life is perfect and so you just got to call them, whether it's once, you know, every other week, once a month, I mean, sometimes you keep, you're dealing with so much stuff you can't really go to other people. But yeah, it is good to just randomly call someone and be like hey, I was thinking of you, how are you? Like, how are you, without any judgment of someone, being like, oh wow, that's how bad you are, but like, yeah, you definitely should do that more often than not. It feels good, and not only calling other people. Check on yourself, yes, oh, check on yourself. Ask yourself, how are we?
Speaker 4:How long ago we're. That is, you are good. Thank you, you are good. I mean you got many talking different and what 30 minutes that we've been here.
Speaker 1:You got many talking different. I mean, even now I'm beating myself up, I'm thinking about this topic.
Speaker 3:You're beating yourself up. That's not good cuz.
Speaker 1:Like you said, I don't really check on my friends mental health.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but you gotta do.
Speaker 1:I don't have that's how to say I don't have many friends Because, like you said earlier, there's a difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Yes, I'm boys.
Speaker 2:Somebody get mad when they find out that right to you they not your friend Right boy, the anger they have, but anyway, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm adult because there are certain people that I know. All right, let me check on this person.
Speaker 1:Yeah but I'm making a mistake that a lot of people do. Um, I'm a supervisor, so I'm put it. I'm gonna give you this example when you're a supervisor, subconsciously you tend to give the people that really go hard for you less attention. Then the people that make your job harder because you feel a sense like that person don't need me. They good you taking care of this. This person is terrible and they need my attention. But you forget that. A those people deserve to check up, deserve that hey, yo you good. Or you appreciate you, yeah. So it's kind of the same thing like, for example, I don't think I can't remember the last time I try to check on like wicks and Rudy's mental health. So I blame that on like, oh well, me, me, rudy and wicks talk every day like whatever. So that's why I'm kind of beating myself up. I'm like, oh damn, no, maybe that's something you gotta think about, but I feel like, I feel like my bad.
Speaker 4:I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:Oh, no go. I mean, like Most people don't check on their strong friends, most people don't check on the people who are always laughing and who are always, you know, out there. But sometimes the the people can hide depression so well. Yeah. I've done it. You could, but it takes more energy to smile. So then, when you get home, you're just like you know, battery dead. But yeah, how often do people check on you?
Speaker 1:people check on me a lot. That's why I'm being myself up to this people. I got a group chat with my friends. I Don't respond to them at all. They're all in the group chat and I'm just there you like the lady in the ceiling.
Speaker 1:You know so that's. And they like they're checking up on me all the time. So I'm I am blessed and that's why I beat myself up, because I'm so blessed. So many people like care about me and check up on me. So I appreciate that, but I don't show them that I appreciate.
Speaker 4:I feel like you do. We just do it in our way. So we have a group chat and every now I will get in there. But hey, how y'all doing today. You know I'm saying hi, y'all, how y'all doing it and I know y'all, you know y'all probably taking this, or we, you know, as like Opening. But it's really like how y'all feeling today, like what's going on with y'all, and I think I ask you when I see you, like man, it was going on with you. Oh yeah, and you know. So it's like the no, just those checks and you do it. You just don't know you do it, but you do it a lot. I feel like you do it. Rudy, do it even in our group chat. We do it in our group chat and then we just go on to sending people kangaroo, choking on a little guy.
Speaker 3:So I won't mess with a kangaroo man.
Speaker 4:But we won't get to the Florida story of the day, right.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 4:I gotta, I gotta get to the Florida story today. Man, mike Tyson First of all, even when you start out with Mike Tyson, you know that it's shit like. So this is a guy from Port Charlotte I guess he was on a plane with Mike Tyson last year Decided that he was gonna keep antagonizing Mike Tyson.
Speaker 3:That's wrong and you know Mike Tyson has been on his.
Speaker 4:That's why I feel like it's perfect to talk about cuz Mike Tyson has been on a peaceful journey. I feel like Mike Tyson is not the Mike Tyson from. I was just saying, like, how far that guy has come. Yeah, he's a different person. So for you to push him to work, the fact that he had to like, feel like he had to hurt, harm you. Knowing how Mike Tyson has been, I feel like you had to do a lot. But now that guy has decided now this happened last year that guy has decided that he's gonna sue this year for Mike Tyson put yeah, he's gonna sue for Mike Tyson putting his hands on.
Speaker 3:Like when he started it.
Speaker 4:He's not only did he, started he. It wasn't like a quick, like he said something. Mike Tyson hit him. He was like, if you look at the picture, yeah, I. Want a picture, I guess. But he Mike Tyson said no, they were on the plane and he just kept going. So he was standing like Mike Tyson is on his seat. He's standing over Mike Tyson. Now, he's not sitting down in this plane, he's standing over Mike Tyson, just bothering him. And eventually Mike Tyson got up and hit him with a couple boundaries.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and the dude didn't understand Mike Tyson's personal space because he wasn't just standing up, he was leaning over top of Mike Tyson. So, yeah, mike Tyson ended up doing what he did. It wasn't like that, mike Tyson, you know, mike Tyson could have did worse, but he just hit him with a couple of like let him know, leave me alone. And now to do the sue and like what do y'all think about that?
Speaker 1:I'm gonna let you go first.
Speaker 3:I mean he started it and and you? It's the same with what we were just talking about about boundaries. Eventually, when somebody puts their toe over the boundary, something's gonna happen. Yeah, so I mean Toe pigs. He wants a toe pig?
Speaker 1:I'm on my band right now. But go on my band, go ahead. It's a dog, this. Oh my god, I was gonna go so extreme, but what I'm gonna say is this is what. This is what I'm looking at right now. I'm gonna tell you a story. I don't think it's a real story, but I'm gonna say the story that created my head. So this guy's at the zoo, he keeps slapping the lion in the head and the lion's chilling, and After the six lap, the lion rips dudes neck off, neck off. I can't. And I'm in the zoo too. And guess what I'm doing in the back of the zoo? Lines of the seven you.
Speaker 4:Clap it slow.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the guy with a tiger. So I hope this this gentleman's married. I hope he's very happy right now and I hope it all goes away, because sometimes the world gotta get you right. The world gotta get you right. So, yeah, that's what I hope. I was gonna wish death on this guy.
Speaker 3:But I'm a change man.
Speaker 1:When you said I hope I'm, but I'm a change. I'm a change man. I see the wheels turning, so I hope that you receive enough misery in your life To change you as a person in the long run. That's true. I don't want you gone, I want you. I want you repaired.
Speaker 1:But in order for you to be repaired, sir, you gonna have to go through some stuff Okay and I want you to go through some stuff, and then I want you to get right after you've gone through some stuff and I hope Mike Tyson countersues and get something from this dude too, oh yeah that would be great, that would be great. Right because you're a miserable person. So you think the same thing, yeah.
Speaker 4:I I feel like, first of all, who sees Mike Tyson and be like I'm for the mess with Mike. I grew up watching Mike Tyson, but I grew up watching the crazy Mike Tyson, that you should just fight people on the streets and and just wow loud. Every like, every like, once a month, you would see a Mike Tyson headline he done, fought somebody, you know, broke somebody, no, you know be. So. When I see Mike Tyson, the last thing I'm thinking about is angering him. And then you see this peaceful journey he's been on. So and I watch Mike Tyson's podcast you know what I'm saying and I watch him and I'm like Mike Tyson has changed because I've seen some people say some crazy stuff to him and he'll just be like He'll laugh at all.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I'll be like my type yeah.
Speaker 4:So for you to disrupt what the peace that this man has built for himself, to the point where he has to put hands on you, on with you, manny, yeah, like, and I don't. I don't wish bad on people, but and I'm not even wishing bad on him.
Speaker 1:But I feel like he has to learn a lesson for you?
Speaker 4:I wish I don't.
Speaker 1:I want him to like I.
Speaker 4:Like I said, I would prefer Mike Tyson to countersue. Yeah and get something from it. Like I don't. You know, I would prefer Mike Tyson to countersue and get some from, because you don't bother anybody to that point, especially somebody that's on the piece, because Mike Tyson didn't say the work was done, he just said he working on it. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:So he wasn't a finished product, he was still working on it that goes back to what you said what a lot of these things that we talk about Is. Some of these things will never be healed, right?
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's about it's that I'm going consistency and working on it all time.
Speaker 1:It's about controlling the monster there you go, mike. Tyson's still a monster. He's just in control.
Speaker 4:So don't play with a monster. Yeah, I'm saying so. Friends with it.
Speaker 3:Because if you, if you're not friends with the monster, the monster's always going to come out and like be snappy.
Speaker 4:Yeah, you know so now you just got to be cool with it. Yeah, I feel like this is going to be the best. I want many to leave. I want both you out to leave some of the people, but normally we go to many for last. You right, I'm gonna say that and I feel like many, is about to change what everybody's perception of many is when he gets. I'm hyping it up because I want you to like I already know.
Speaker 1:We're so in tune right now.
Speaker 4:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:She's doing great things here in this show. I'm sorry I'm not anybody like we're right now. You well, we're always in tune, but we're in tune, tune right now I told you it was a good idea. Yeah, yeah, we, like you said, be, able to go first, and then I'll let you know so all right, so you want some.
Speaker 4:We had to end now. Do you want to leave some with the people?
Speaker 3:I just, first of all, I want to say thank you for this. This has been awesome. It's really has, and, if you are trying to get in touch with me, I'm on tiktok and also my book, soul on soul contact, is on amazon, so you can get that, and my next book is coming out, hopefully within the next couple months, and that'll be on amazon too, so you can look me up, giovanna prior and I also do offer one-on-one coaching sessions, so, um, all of that is on there. My website, wwwsignsofempowermentcom.
Speaker 4:And I'll leave the in the description. So I'll put it in the description so that they can find you and find your book Perfect, and that way they can. Now, if you get some DMs, manny want to know if it's outside of the coat, the coaching and manny wants to know names. If it's coaching, then he don't need to know names, but if it's outside of coaching, manny need names, because you know what I'm saying. So you want me to go? You want to go was?
Speaker 1:that Well you done, because I want to close this out.
Speaker 4:I still got to do the Okay. So what we're going to do is um, what I want to leave with the people Is if you see somebody at their most peaceful, leave them alone, or you're going to end up like the Mike Tyson victim. Yeah, just leave them alone, let them be. Let them do what they're doing. They're they're Probably dealing with things that you never even understand and they're trying to fight though Whatever they're dealing with or befriend whatever they're dealing with, and you don't even know it. You just out here trying to pay, see Mike Tyson on the plane of time. You know I'm upset about it, but I'm gonna just leave that with the people.
Speaker 1:Leave people alone, be nice there you go All right, so just a quick question for you. You said that you feel like there's been some serious change here. Yes, but you said so. You see me becoming a different person after this.
Speaker 4:I see you becoming A ball version of you, that's the word I was thinking.
Speaker 3:That was hoping that you was.
Speaker 1:That's what I was hoping that you was thinking that's a lie. The second she leave it's on site, is it we talked about in the darkness, bro? This is the last time this manny that you saw today is dead when the camera turns off. Don't play with me, don't disrespect me. In the comments I have not changed. It's over. That was temporary. He's just kidding. We bathing in the dark. Yeah, I'm kidding. Come get this next snap, the lion story that I told that was me, son because I'm sick of y'all.
Speaker 1:As a matter of fact, I got hurt to tell me about everybody on the DMs, not even if you wanted life coaching, why y'all didn't come to me and ask me for something.
Speaker 4:You yelling at him.
Speaker 1:This was great, though I appreciate you. I appreciate you coming. This was nice.
Speaker 3:That's how you hear your throat chakra. Right there, you let it all out.
Speaker 1:So you okay, yeah, I'm good.
Speaker 4:All right, y'all. Episode 22 cue, my theme music.